Self-care is a major buzzword these days in the wellness and mental health worlds. I'm not mad about it. It's important to "fill your cup" and "guard your energy" and "recharge" -- it really is.
A recent article on medium.com had a really interesting take on this self-care movement. When Self-Care Turns to Self-Sabotage made the argument that "just because something feels good, doesn't mean it's good for you." For example, if you're taking bubble baths to avoid paying your phone bill or canceling plans with friends and isolating yourself on a daily basis -- it may be time to reassess your approach.
I think about this especially as it pertains to folks with social anxiety. It may feel better to stay home from the party to avoid feelings of discomfort but does that really serve you in the long run? If your goal is to connect with others -- maybe not. So, where is the line between "this is truly too much" and "yes this will be hard, but I can do this"? The answer will be different for everyone but here are some questions to ask yourself:
1. Do I want to do this? If no, why not?
2. What positives might come from this? What negatives?
3. Am I willing to take a risk? Can I tolerate these feelings of discomfort today?
There will always be times when staying home is actually the right choice. We all need that time to ourselves, time to recharge. It's just equally as important that we not use "self-care" as a crutch -- when really what would be most beneficial is to face our fears/worries/bills/deadlines(etc) head on.
How do you care for yourself?